爱若此时

电影看的越来越多，但哭得愈来愈少了。

不过这部电影泪点太多了，无尿点，多高潮，总感觉自己猜到了结局，却总又是峰回路转了。

这类题材的电影本身就很打动人，而且不乏优秀的作品，但是这部从情节到配乐到演员，几乎没有失分的部分。

从一开始一个烂俗的偶遇，一路演得催人泪下，着实让人心碎。

不是每个故事都会是Happy Ending！

这个故事也是一样.......Justice从来都只不过是多数人的游戏，而少数人连参与的资格都没有，但往往都是这少数人才应该被公平和正义去眷顾。

请大家不要带着有色眼镜去看这个世界，因为这个世界本来就是五颜六色的！

这不是一个单纯的同性电影，它讲述得是公平正义与爱的原动力。

摘掉你的有色眼镜去看看，也许你会发现，人都是人......

有一个男孩，叫Marco,他拥有魔法，有两个爱他的父亲，快乐的生活， 一起到死。

几乎是从头哭到尾的电影，这个由真实事件改编的故事，彻底的掀翻了所有的伪装与坚强，在电影快结束时，在Marco冰凉的背影中，竟然找到了从未获得过的释然与解放，谢谢。

我知道，那些眼泪是因为在这个被母亲被现实遗弃的唐氏综合症男孩身上，看到了自己的记忆，那些好久好久都不敢打开的抽屉，甚至面对它们，无法思考，因为它们可以再一次毁了我。

这并不代表，曾经幼小天真的心可以接受那些过程与回忆，直至现在，开始明白，现在之所以是现在的原因，那是因为那些抽屉。

但这一切并不是我的过错，应该勇敢坦诚面对现在，否则我就会和Marco一样因无奈与无助而放弃生命。

两个可爱的父亲，是唯一的安慰，至少他们相互鼓励与坚信，勇敢地相爱在一起。

在这个邪恶的社会与肮脏的现实里面，所有的真善美之后所衍生的爱，都是无条件且天真的，我相信。

总有一天，总有一天，去做一些对的事件，分享一些天真的爱，去弥补我们身上所缺少的部分，才会知道什么是真正的生命意义。

P.S 音乐也非常非常的动人。

Rudy的眼角有皱纹，仍然可以美的不可方物。

他是物质贫瘠、精神富足，有血有肉的存在。

在他胸腔里跳动的，是一颗温暖澄澈的玻璃心。

开场就告诉你，一见钟情不是不可能。

这是一个关于谎言的故事，而活不活在谎言之中，人是可以选择的。

这也是一个关于困难以及迎难而上的故事，面对患有唐氏综合症的小孩，抚养他的过程就像一场看不到终点的马拉松比赛。

这个“不正常”的家庭，看似不堪一击，实则坚不可摧。

Marco点头，他只想要一个happy ending的故事。

伴随come to me的家庭DV片段是最爱。

电影朴实诚恳，看到很多熟悉的面孔，令人怀念。

这是我继《天佑鲍比》后，第二部哭得痛彻心扉的电影。

我被Rudy和Paul给予Marco无私而全身心的爱而打动，被他们为了让Marco有一个正常的家而拼尽全力的追求而打动，被他们一家三口曾经的美好时光而打动。

然而，就是这份为了孩子的倾心付出，却因为社会对同性恋的歧视而不得不被迫终止。

能给我讲个故事吗，我喜欢幸福的结局他是一个可爱、聪明、有趣的孩子，他的笑容可以照亮整个房间，他喜欢垃圾食品，巧克力甜甜圈是他最喜欢的东西，他是全世界最好的迪斯科舞者，他总爱抱着那个叫Ashley的洋娃娃，他喜欢每晚听一个故事，只要故事有幸福的结局。

这就是Marco，一个唐氏综合征孩子。

不幸的是，这个孩子的母亲是一个毒瘾极大的女人，她疯狂吸毒，带陌生人回家，对Marco从来都不管不顾。

直到有一天她被警察带走，留下Marco孤身在家，住在隔壁的Rudy发现了这个孩子。

他们是很棒的家长，有他们的地方才是Marco的家Marco被带到收养院，并且将一直在那个收养院待下去，因为没人会收养他，没人想收养一个矮矮胖胖、心智受损的孩子，整个世界没人想要他，除了Rudy和Paul。

Rudy发现这件事后，在Paul的帮助下，他们得到了Marco的临时监护权。

他们把Marco带回了自己的家，并将Marco视为己出，送Marco上学，辅导Marco学习，给Marco过生日。

可以明显的看出，他们投入了自己全部的爱给Marco，而这也Marco第一次感受到了家的温暖，让Marco第一次感受到到一个孩子应得的快乐与幸福。

愿Marco回家的路，不再有阻碍当Rudy与Paul的关系被曝光后，他们也失去了收养Marco的权利，因为在当时，在70年代的美国加州，法律不允许同性恋伴侣收养孩子。

但让人不可忍受的是，加州却允许有滥用药物和家庭暴力前科的人收养小孩。

可见当时社会对同性恋的歧视真的太大太深。

故事的最后，Marco的母亲提前保释出狱，要回了Marco的监护权，却仍然不知悔改，继续吸毒，不管Marco的生活。

Marco踏上了寻找家的道路，他想回到有Rudy与Paul的地方，回到能真的给他温暖和爱的地方。

不幸的是，他为找到回家的路一直走了三天，最终在一座桥下孤单地死去。

两个最爱Marco的人，那唯一知道他喜欢吃甜甜圈，喜欢听有幸福结尾故事，能看到Marco身上的光芒的人，却因为社会对同性恋的歧视而得不到对一个没有人会再关心他的唐氏综合征孩子的抚养权。

Marco想要回家，想要回到唯一能给予他平等的爱和对待的家，是这些令人发指的歧视，一次又一次阻挡了他回家的路。

愿Marco能记住这份无时无刻的爱，愿Marco离开的路不孤单。

他们说，一切都可以被取代他们说，一切距离都不相近我记得每一张脸每一个置我于此情此景的人我看到我的光芒开始闪亮从西方照到东方任何一刻，若是此时我将被释放他们说，他们说每个人都该保护好自己他们说，他们说每个人都会沦陷我发誓，我发誓看到了我的投影远远不只这些墙壁没错，我看到我的光芒在闪亮，在闪亮从西方照到东方我的天任何一刻，若是此时我将被释放是的，我看到我的光芒闪亮从西方照到东方我发誓，我发誓我发誓，我的爱我们会得到释放关于电影对应的真实故事电影编剧布卢姆（Bloom）透露：“ 《爱若此时》的电影剧本灵感来自真实故事，并非基于真实故事。

”他在30年前写了原始剧本。

当时，他在纽约的一个朋友向他介绍了一个叫Rudy的男同性恋。

Rudy住在一个小公寓里，几乎没有钱。

他结识了一个居住在几个街区之外的12岁男孩。

这个男孩已经被他的吸毒/妓女母亲遗弃，并与他的祖母住在一起。

祖母没有为这个不说话的男孩做多少事情。

他猜这个孩子是自闭症，但没有钱做任何事情。

于是Rudy把男孩带到他的公寓，确保他已经穿好衣服并被喂饱了，他竭尽所能让他上学。

最后，他把他养大了。

值得高兴的是，至少在现实生活中，这个故事是一个幸福的结局。

只看故事的話還是很感動 只是不知道要關注的重點是只看大人和小孩之間的感情會想起那部關於只有6歲孩子智商的爸爸的電影一樣 關於兒童福利制度？

看大人的話是 追求愛的平等權利么總之 有點不知道怎麼去側重 所以只當做是愛的故事哦 裏面的歌不錯''COME TO ME''written by Tony Greenperformed by France Joli''THE STUD''written by Biddu''IT WOULD BE A SHAME''written by B.Mitchell and M.Wrightperformed by Betty Padgett''TELEGRAM SAM''written by Marc Bolanperformed by T.Rex'' SUPER STUPID''written by George Clinton Jr.,Edward Hazel, William Nolson,Lucious Rossperformed by Funkadelic''ONE MONKEY DON'T STOP THE SHOW,PART 1''written by General N.Johnson and Gregory S.Perryperformed by The Honey Cone''NIGHTTIME RAMBLE''written and performed by Jeff Lass''INSIDE THE CROWD''written and performed by Jeff Lass''BACKSTORY BLUES''written by Travis Fine and Jeff Lassperformed by Jeff Lass and Alan Cumming''SHAKE DOWN''written by Eddie Horan,Hadley Murrell and Dwight J.Emlieperformed by Black Ice''IT'S ALL ABOUT LOVE''written and performed by Teddy Rabb''MIRACLES''written by Martyn Buchwaidperformed by Marty Balin''GREEN HAZE''written and performed by Miles Davis''AMERICA THE BEAUTIFUL''written by Katharine Lee Bates and Samuel A.Ward''GETTING HOT''written and performed by Teddy Rabb''BUICK MACKANE''written by Marc Bolanperformed by T.Rex''COME TO ME''written by Tony Greenperformed by Alan Cumming''DON'T LEAVE ME THIS WAY''written by Kenneth Gamble, Leon Huff, Cary Grant Gilbertperformed by Thelma Houston''LOVE DON'T LIVE HERE ANYMORE''written by Gregory Milesperformed by Alan Cumming''I SHALL BE RELESAED''written by Bob Dylanperformed by Alan Cumming''METAPHORICAL BLANKET''written and performed by Rufus Wainwrightstring Arrangement by Joey Newman

我看到众豆友的评论时，也忍不住发表一下自己的看法。

这是一部很好的电影，在我心中，好电影就是看完之后，总能给你留下点感觉，那种感觉或许是美好的，忧伤的，快乐的，失落的.......但是总是有一种感觉，改变了你对某些事物的看法。

有人说这部影片在很多时候显得情节失控，导致目的不明。

其实我想说，应该说我相信，看完这部影片的人应该都会感觉到，同性恋有权利得到孩子的抚养权，因为他们就是普通人，甚至比一部分普通人更有爱。

当每个人都能产生有这种感觉，就说明这个电影已经成功的表达了它想表达的意思，传播了它的正能量。

电影中让我印象深刻的是黑人律师对鲁迪和保罗的一句话：在加利福利亚甚至允许有滥用药物和家庭暴力前科的人收养小孩，而你们不行。

看了一下电影资料，电影的背景设定在70年代，其实可想而知那时候人们对同性恋的不了解与深深的厌恶，无处不在。

电影中很多细节就反应了，如保罗丢了工作，他们其实找了很多律师却都没有人愿意帮他们，法官的一再刁难，与马可老师的担忧...让我始终感动的是他们的努力，他们没有放弃，他们的生活已经很艰难，他们知道他们要面对的，但是他们始终没有放弃...如果你懂得就好。

有人说鲁迪和保罗的感情发展的太快了，没有铺垫。

怎么说能，我曾经也喜欢过同性，只是她的突然回头对我的一个微笑，我就迷恋了她3年。

如果你也有过这种一见钟情的感觉，你就懂得。

其实鲁迪每次在台上唱歌时，都让我觉得惊艳，他的自信让我觉得那时的他比一个女人都美。

人很容易爱上与他自身性格相反的人，保罗严谨，善于克制自己，甚至可以看出他有点小内向，我相信他一看到自信，欢快，善良，执着，无时无刻可以展现自身才华的鲁迪时，他很容易一见钟情，并陪伴他做其实自己也想做而曾经没有勇气做的事情。

这个故事很简单，一切进行的很缓慢很自然，但是不是幸福的结局。

如果这个故事曾是真的，那30年后的今天，马可一样的孩子，遇到鲁迪和保罗一样的他们，这将是一段温馨的喜剧。

这个故事让我们知道，每段历史，都有一段时间的错误，但有像鲁迪和保罗他们那样的人，不断努力，终将改变这段错误。

就如我们现在的认知。

Any Day Now，2012年美国出品，83分。

一开始简直象童话，变装王后歌手鲁迪在同性恋吧闪闪发光性感出场，正统好男人律师保罗对他一见钟情，而鲁迪好心收留了隔壁嗑药女的唐氏患儿马可，三个人从此幸福地生活在一起，如果就在这欢乐结局嘎然而止多好！

可生活远远不是童话，哪怕已经配备了鲁迪不羁之善良自尊，专业精良的律师爱人保罗，马可的纯真笑容，相对公平的美国司法系统。

一切敌不过同性恋歧视，人言可畏，围绕着马可的监护权的法庭辩论，就是一场狗屎，因为压根就是同性恋是否正常的辩论。

无视鲁迪和保罗多么有爱，无视他们监护一年之中给予马可的温暖和家，无视马可多么想要回到他们身边，无视证人给予这对家长客观积极的评价，最后让孩子回归被提前假释的瘾君子妈妈那里，在又一次毒瘾发作鬼混之际，孩子离家而走最终孤独死于街头。

很现实，世界上的正义不是总能得到支持，生而为人，生而平等，可写进宪法也没用，同性恋者在人类历史中经过了那么多屈辱的年代，并仍将屈辱很长时间，说到底，一个人的性取向关卿毛事啊？！

鲁迪显然非主流边缘人士，没钱没地位，可他第一次冲进地区检察署面对保罗的那种凛然自尊让人鼓掌，毅然决然做出收养马可的决定不是一时之举，人生际遇颠沛流离堪称放浪不羁，可又怎样？！

照样富有魅力歌声迷人照样值得爱会爱勇往向前。

看到他一出场我不禁张大了嘴，这演员不是傲骨贤妻里那个长袖善舞八面玲珑的智囊？

这个角色显然赋予Alan Cumming更多的表演空间。

演律师的那个好像现实生活里我熟悉的那位，正统至极低调谦虚。

15岁的小演员就是一个唐氏患儿，本色表演出色。

这是一个温情脉脉又不无伤痛的故事，爱若此时。

　　我也不觉得这片子有多好或者有多没有重点..但我的视觉就像一直就是处于男猪脚的视觉 去审视这个熟悉但又极度令人绝望 充满不甘的世界 那时候的同性恋都是自卑的.弱小的 无助的 律师男一直的逃避很好的印证着..我们不妨再想一下石墙 想一下鲍比 米尔克 差不多都是这个时代的吧.（记不太清楚） 可就因为这样对未知的恐惧 对无法预测的不放心和对所谓“平常人”不同的行事 就急着保护自己，从最开始的警官掏枪威吓到后来的贱人D.A和反方律师 完全就是要把同性恋往死里整..但最后失去的却是那个周旋在他们“斗争”下的孩子..一个唐氏综合征患者 一个只是想回家和吃最爱的甜甜圈而别无所求的小孩 那帮正常人失去的是作为人所必需的良心. 在这场斗争中 那些所谓的“正常人”变得连狗都不如 狗尚且会抉择谁对他好..他们连最起码的判断力都被歧视所吞没 我最记忆尤深的是女法官的陈词 那里面就是赤裸裸的歧视 我不明白什么叫做同性恋行为会影响孩子认为同性恋是正常的 那么一男一女在孩子面前吸毒做爱就应该是正常的 两个男人从心底里爱护着孩子 给他最好的 一直保护他照顾他 一起留下完美的记忆就是“不正常” 其实对于正常人来说那孩子也早就因为智障而被歧视 被归为“不正常”对待了吧..我还能说什么呢这世界真TM疯狂!!!

早在2004年我就真正切切的和同性恋一起吃过饭，没有传说中的污秽，所感受到的是一种纯净，如孩童般的纯净。

这几年看了几部同性电影，都觉得爱是美好的，《断背山》自不必说，李安把感情处理的很好，男人间爱的厚重和压抑，欲而不能的现实，让心像大山一样无言凝重，那感情多真啊，《养子15岁》是一部瑞典电影，宁静的乡村生活，平静的家长里短，同性的生活和其他的没什么不同，真正的是真爱无关性别，叛逆养子最后被爱感化。

《爱若此时》也是如此，影片很正面，两个男人为人正派，彼此相爱，平淡生活，一如寻常男女，可惜因为部分世俗的压力，他们的领养未能实现，可怜了Marco最终死在天桥下。

我讨厌部分人戴着道德伪君子的面罩，肆意的去践踏他人的情感，爱，不论同性、异性，无关乎年龄、学识、地位等各方面的差异，只要相爱，只要爱是真的，感情都该被尊重。

以下转载：Rudy是同志酒吧的异装舞者，他性感，热烈，活得洒脱有趣。

Paul让他讲述自己的故事，他用一首歌唱出自己的经历，如何生活艰辛，梦想被现实击碎。

Rudy像极了风月俏佳人里朱莉娅•罗伯茨饰演的女主角，如果他是个女人，一定追求者无数。

Paul是行迹于上层社会的律师。

他结过婚，拥有过自己的公司，但不甘于麻木不仁的生活。

于是离了婚，学习法律，他的梦想是改变世界。

Rudy和Paul一见钟情，他们彼此被对方的特质吸引，彼此深爱。

因为Rudy爱憎分明的一颗赤子之心，他们还意外得到了一个孩子——患有自闭症的男孩Marco。

Marco喜欢自己的芭比娃娃，喜欢吃垃圾食品，喜欢Rudy把自己当作主角编进故事里，虽然电影里Rudy的故事从来都只讲一个开头，但可以猜到，它一定有个好结局。

然而现实中的Marco却结局悲惨，Rudy和Paul的同志情侣关系被揭发后，Marco被生活淫乱的生母夺回抚养权，他最终走失，孤独死在一座桥下。

不是因为他出走后忘记了生母的住处，那条路他走过无数次；只是在他心里Rudy和Paul才是他的家，但因为世俗的干涉，那个家他再也回不去……影片根据真实事件改编，虽然情节涉及到儿童抚养权，但影片的重心并不在同性家庭是否有资格收养儿童这个比同性恋本身更复杂很多的问题。

Marco的作用还是拷问社会对同性情侣的不公正——因为和Rudy的关系被揭发，本来即将升迁的Paul丢掉了工作，同时他们失去了对Marco的抚养权，唯有Rudy唱歌的梦想侥幸没有被打破，他夜夜在酒吧，唱一首让人心碎的挽歌。

影片在很多时候显得情节失控，导致目的不明。

看完我仍然会困惑它到底想说的是同性恋受到不公正对待，还是同性情侣是否有资格收养小孩，再或者，是如何关爱特殊儿童。

作为探讨敏感问题的电影，本片显然力道不足，而导演耽于煽情，演员入戏过深长期飘在自high状态（尤其Rudy）更加重了煽情意味，也让电影更加绵软无力。

影片很多情节设计很像撑同片的典范费城，比如律师被发现是同志后丢掉工作，比如最后没有人愿意接同志的案子所以主角求助黑人律师。

但费城分分钟都是剑拔弩张的气势，汤姆•汉克斯为它掉的每一斤肉都是打在保守世俗脸上的响亮耳光。

而本片思想较费城并不失之毫厘，但力度却差之千里。

然而我相信，任何对于现存问题心怀诚意的探讨，都是有价值的。

至于有人提到的Rudy和Paul的情感发展缺乏铺垫，没有说服力，可以套用我一心思细腻的朋友对新版笑傲江湖的评价：剧情是狗血的，感情是真挚的。

嗯……

Alan Cumming Has Never Been BetterThe story of Any Day Now may take place in the past, but the discrimination against same-sex families it depicts is unfortunately still all too real.BY DIANE ANDERSON-MINSHALL JANUARY 04 2013 5:00 AM ET George Arthur Bloom lived in Brooklyn in the late 1970s, back when it was a rough-and-tumble area. He was inspired by a larger-than-life character everyone seemed to know, Rudy, who developed a fatherly relationship with, as filmmaker Travis Fine puts it, a “kid who was terribly handicapped, both mentally and physically” and whose mother was a drug addict. Bloom turned Rudy’s real-life experience into a screenplay, which almost got filmed several times during the ensuing years (at one point Tommy Lee Jones and Sylvester Stallone were attached to it). Then it went nowhere, Bloom gave up, and it sat in a drawer until his son, an old high school friend of Fine’s, showed the director the script.The movie that came of it, Any Day Now, which hit theaters this winter and garnered awards on the festival circuit, follows The Good Wife’s Alan Cumming as Rudy, Raising Hope’s Garret Dillahunt as Paul, the closeted attorney who becomes his partner, and Isaac Leyva as Marco, a teen with Down syndrome who’s abandoned by his mother and taken in by the men. They all must fight a biased legal system so the couple can adopt Isaac, a heart-wrenching storyline that will resonate with many of the 2 to 6 million LGBT people who say they’d like to adopt.“The story of Any Day Now may take place in the past, but the discrimination against same-sex families it depicts is unfortunately still all too real in some parts of our country,” says GLAAD president Herndon Graddick.It’s real too for kids like Marco. As of 2011 there were 104,236 children in foster care awaiting adoption, many of them considered special-needs children because they are black or Latino, are older than infants, or have some form of mental or physical disability. “What the film’s remarkable performances and eloquent script reveal, though, is how unjust and hurtful to same-sex couples and children that discrimination really is,” Graddick adds.Cumming, whose performance is riveting and one of his most inspired, talks about making the film.I found Any Day Now just completely absorbing and really moving. And I notice people just seem to really have a gut reaction to the film. Why do you think it reaches people that way? I think that we see the story of people who are damaged and devastated by bigotry and prejudice and ignorance. And we understand how wrong that is because we’ve invested in these characters and we want them to be together. And then I think in a larger way, we know that the reason that happened is because that bigotry and that prejudice still exist in our society. And I think we are so moved by it because we know that we are complicit in that because we are all members of that society.This is a story about many things — about family, the foster care system, and coming out, but at the heart of it, it’s a love story between your free-spirited Rudy and Garret’s buttoned-down, closeted Paul. How did you develop the sort of chemistry that viewers see between you and Garret on-screen? We just had to fake it, because we didn’t know each other. It was very well-written. and obviously Garret is a really brilliant actor and we luckily felt very comfortable with each other and got on. And I think that’s half of it. Once you feel comfortable with someone you can just dive in. But you’d imagine we’d have lots of time to talk and get comfortable with each other. No, we were practically in bed on the first day.One of the other parts of the film that we don’t see a lot of — but is so true — is that there’s so much difficulty over same-sex couples trying to adopt. But the reality is there are a ton of children and teenagers, especially with physical or mental disabilities, that will just languish in the system.Absolutely right. And that to me is the biggest idea—because everyone falls in love with Isaac. Garret says at one point, “I’m just hoping that this child doesn’t slip through the cracks in the system,” and sadly he does.Tell me about working with Isaac. Oh, it was great. I loved it. I mean people think…you’re going to make a movie with someone who has a learning disability, what’s that going to mean? I had no idea. But I just went into it…with an open heart. And he was just an absolute darling and so lovely.… He’s got kind of openness to him and…he’s not at all jaded. Everything there’s pure, and it kind of reminded me of what acting should be like. Everything’s really on the surface and completely authentic.That's great. You have some scenes of just real heartbreak and anguish. Was there anything in your own life that you could call on to sort of nail those scenes? To inspire?Well, yes. I have had heartbreak and anguish in my life. That's not difficult for me to access.So, ten years ago, we used to ask straight actors if they had any hesitation about playing a gay role. Now it's more common to ask gay actors if they worry about being pigeonholed. This is certainly not your first gay role, but do you ever worry about that?No, I actually don't. I mean, [I'm] playing a straight man on TV every Monday. I just don't deal with that. I mean, I've played gay people, but I don't know the percentage. I just I don't think much in that way, you know. I don't correlate it in that way. But I'm drawn to the stories and the character's heart, you know. And perhaps because… I'm comfortable with it, I'm likely to be offered things, I could see people know that I would be more ready to be comfortable with doing it. But I don't worry at all. I'm not really a worrier. I refuse.That's great. So assuming they met somehow, what would Rudy think about Eli, your character on Good Wife?I think… in terms of the story, I think he'd probably try to see what he could do to help his situation. I think probably they might lock horns a little bit initially because they're both quite sensitive types. But I imagine that, you know, they might get on eventually because they look so alike. That was a joke.What’s the most critical thing for you to get across with this film? What do you want people to take away from it? I want people to…have a real emotional experience and an emotional connection. But really…I want people to go away and think, Wow, look at the effect of prejudice and ignorance and bigotry, and look at how much our society is still engendering and encouraging that. Speaking of, you and your husband, Grant, got married earlier this year in New York. What are your thoughts on the recent marriage equality successes? I think it’s great that we have a president who is very vocal in his support of equality and gay rights. I think the last election is really exciting in that it showed that the country was rejecting all that sort of prejudice and fear-based prejudice. We’re still the second-class citizens. And people still can be fired for being gay and people are gay-bashed.… So, you know, I don’t mean to be ungrateful but I don’t see why I should be so grateful for my rights. I think that’s what we should all remember.I have one last question. You have a book coming out in 2013: May the Foreskin Be With You. I read a little excerpt from it and it made me want to ask, what made you want to talk so intimately about your penis and other people's penises?Because I was shocked when I first came to America, [and] I realized that the people who were seeing my penis were so utterly ignorant of what a real penis — a normal, intact penis —looks like. I thought, God, I'm here, I'm in New York City, this progressive, cultural, melting-pot of the world, and these people don't realize that they are genitally mutilated as children. And that was really what got me going, I was like, this is how it's supposed to be. And then I've [found] out more about it, and saw all the things about lack of sensation that people have, and I became aware of that because you just are aware that people with their circumcised penises are less sensitive. And so it just became a cause for me, really. And then of course you find out all these things about how the circumcisions can go so horribly wrong, and how these poor kids have terrible, terrible things happen. I've been in situations where I've been in a car, and me and an interviewer are talking about the book or other things, and the driver will go, "I heard you speaking and you know, my circumcision went wrong and I… pee out of two holes."And I think it's this unspoken thing, of men, that don't want to talk about it and they certainly don't want to be told something that irretrievable, irreversible. It's so wrong and they're losing so much. Also, it's fighting the medical system that [doesn't want to] admit they're wrong, and they don't want to lose the money that every circumcision brings them. To me, it seems to me this huge conspiracy. And actually … if it was girl circumcision, I mean female genital mutilation, we would be horrified about it. And we are, when it happens.Yes, [female circumcision] is illegal here, yeah.Yes, so why is it? If anything happens to thousands of little boys and we think that's okay.Yeah. And there always seems to be the excuse that a boy's penis should look like his father's. I hear that again and again. To which I think, do you go home get your cocker in front of your dad? I didn't. Is that an American custom? Because I don't think that's right, if it is. -Dillahunt, who plays the often clueless but nonetheless progressive and lovable Burt Chance on Raising Hope, isn't new to playing gay and bisexual characters. But this film, he says, is special. He tells us why.I found Any Day Now completely absorbing and really moving and viewers seem to have a real, visceral reaction to the film. Why do you think that is?I guess, hopefully, they find it honest and relatable. I think, despite the specific circumstances these characters are going through, there's a lot of common ground.This is a story about family, the foster care system, disability, coming out and so on. But at the heart it’s a love story between your button down closeted character, Paul, and Alan Cumming’s free-spirited drag performer, Rudy. What was most critical to you to get across in the film?That these were living, breathing human beings. The whole thing will fall apart, obviously, if the audience doesn't believe the love between these two, seemingly, opposites.Ten years ago, we used to ask straight actors if they had any hesitation about playing a gay role but not so much any more. So I’m wondering what made you want to take on this role?I just thought it was a challenge. I like mixing it up as much as I can, and Paul was much different from the previous character I'd played, and I thought it would be fun to tackle. The icing on the cake is that it's a beautiful story with themes that are, sadly, still resonant today. Who wouldn't want to be a part of that?I love that while Paul is really navigating new territory as a gay or bisexual man, the film certainly isn’t just a traditional coming out narrative. There’s no big “I am gay” scene, for example. Was there sort of awareness that Paul’s coming out was almost secondary to what was happening with Marco?Yes. I think the center of this story is Marco. Rudy is an incredibly tough guy — he's a drag queen in the '70s, for Christ's sake. It is almost unsurprising that he would take Marco under his wing. I think his comfort as a gay man is something Paul envies. Probably one of the things that attracts him to Rudy, this unapologetic "gayness" and willingness to fight — it brings out Paul's quieter strength. And the catalyst is this boy.It’s hard not to think this film as a modern Kramer vs Kramer. Dustin Hoffman’s character loses his job to care for the kid; Rudy does the same. Hoffman and Streep go to court to battle for custody; Paul and Rudy do the same. Though it’s set in the 1970s, the storyline feels particularly timely as Kramer did when it came out. What do you think of comparisons like that?I don't mind them. I suppose they're going to happen however I feel about it.My sister-in-law has Down syndrome so it was lovely to see a storyline about a teen with Down syndrome. Tell me about working with Isaac, who plans Marco in the film.Isaac was terrific. He was excited and joyful, prepared, and serious. He'd shush Alan and I if we were too goofy when Travis was about to call "action." He gives great hugs and listens — which makes him a great actor. He really reminded me why I do this, and how I should do this. He shamed me, truthfully. And I am so grateful.What about working with Alan. How did you develop enough trust to connect so easily in the film? You have great chemistry.We got on well, didn't we? We seem like a couple. I wish I had a great story to tell you — some incredible bonding experience or conversation we had prior to filming that clicked everything into place. But we didn't have time for that. We met at the wig fitting and got to work. I guess we're professionals! Sometimes it's easy, though. Alan is real easy to act with. We share a belief, I think, that if you're not having fun, why do it? And it is fun, no matter how harrowing the scene, when it works. And with Alan, it works every time. Heh, he'll love that quote.http://www.advocate.com/print-issue/current-issue/2013/01/04/alan-cumming-has-never-been-betterhttp://www.advocate.com/arts-entertainment/film/2012/12/13/garret-dillahunt-tackles-gay-adoption-any-day-now